People always ask me: “How can you be so positive all the time?”
My answer is: “I reprogrammed my brain”
A little bit of background..
Some of you already know my story, so I’ll be brief.
I used to be a very negative person. Blaming and complaining all the time. The bus is late, lunch sucked, weather is lousy, teacher is a moron, I am ugly, my sisters are stupid etc…
Until one day I had a huge row with my sister and my dad, the people I loved the most. At a certain moment they told me I was no fun to be with. Blaming and complaining. I had to get a grip on myself.
And the crazy thing about all this: I wasn’t even aware of that.
And even though I could argue that indeed there were a couple of things to be unhappy about, I decided that day that no longer was I going to be that negative person. No more.
And little by little I became a positive person.
Now you are wondering how I did that.
I could tell you a great story on how I studied the masters, read the books, etc… but that would be a lie. Well, not completely, in the meanwhile I have studied the masters and read the books on psychology, neuro science, cognitive behavioural therapy etc…
But back in the day, there were nog books like that in my house, there was no internet.
I taught it myself. Gut feeling.
- By identifying what I really wanted and who I wanted to be.
- By focusing on my thoughts – what was I thinking
- Whenever a negative thought entered my mind, I redirected it towards a positive thought
- I started giving more compliments to others
- I started wearing a smile on my face 🙂
Today, I add other actions to this list
- Every morning and every evening I count my blessings – I am grateful
- I use affirmations
- And I do my random acts of kindness (RAK)
Mind you, there still are times where negativity gets a hold on me.
But I know what to do now 🙂
So, what’s it to you?
Maybe you are a positive person and you do not need to reprogram your brain in that sense.
However, there might be other character traits you have or behaviours you show you are not so happy about.
I believe we can do something about it.
People will tell you all the time: “I was born that way.” Or “Yeah well that’s because I’m an introvert” or “I had a difficult childhood”.
Well, it’s time to grow up and become who you want to be.
Because you can. By starting to reprogram your brain.
It is possible. Look at me.
So off you!
PS: Oh, and I used to be a shy introverted ugly duckling who wanted to be invisible.
And look at me now enjoying networking events, speaking in public, recording videos, showing people how they can become more visible in an authentic way, talking about personal branding…
I knew it was important to leave the introverted, invisible me behind.
I reprogrammed my brain.
What are your thoughts on this?